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      <title><![CDATA[The Shame That Made Me Quit — and the Reason I Shouldn't Have]]></title>
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      <title><![CDATA[Against the Grain: How to Use Dating Apps Without Letting Them Use You]]></title>
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      <title><![CDATA[The Questions That Actually Matter: A Partially Serious Guide to Domestic Compatibility]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Fri, 17 Apr 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
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      <title><![CDATA[The Long-Distance Playbook: What Nobody Tells You About the Reunions]]></title>
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      <description><![CDATA[The debrief-rekindle-tension cycle that every long-distance couple recognises but nobody warns you about. Real experience, real research, and a practical playbook.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[The Green Monster: Why Jealousy Feels Like Love (But Isn't)]]></title>
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      <description><![CDATA[Why jealousy consumes us when we're young, why it fades as we mature, and what the psychology of jealousy reveals about insecurity, trust, and what love actually looks like.]]></description>
      <pubDate>Fri, 10 Apr 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
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      <description><![CDATA[That electrifying feeling when you meet someone — is it genuine connection or your nervous system misfiring? The neuroscience of 'the spark' and what it actually tells you.]]></description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 06 Apr 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
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      <title><![CDATA[Attachment Styles: The Map You Didn't Know You Were Following]]></title>
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      <description><![CDATA[Love Languages tell you how people prefer to be loved. Attachment theory tells you whether they can receive it at all. A longer-form look at the framework every dating article references and almost none explain properly.]]></description>
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      <title><![CDATA[Ghosting: The Psychology of Why People Do It (And Why It Hurts So Much)]]></title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 31 Mar 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
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      <title><![CDATA[Is Love a Scientific Problem That Can Be Solved?]]></title>
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      <description><![CDATA[A Google AI expert posed this question on a podcast and it stopped us in our tracks. What does science actually know about love — and what remains beautifully unsolvable?]]></description>
      <pubDate>Wed, 25 Mar 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
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