Dating Confidence Hub
Curious, useful, occasionally surprising, and free to use.
This is the part where dating gets interesting. Inside: the psychology of why people fall for each other, a red-flags quiz worth taking, a four-week confidence build, conversation techniques to try, and Sparky, an AI dating guide, ready whenever you want to think out loud.
Dating Mastery
Go beyond tips and tricks. Understand the psychology behind connection, practise deeper conversations, and track your growth over time.
Learn
Understand the psychology and neuroscience behind genuine connection
5 modules →Practise
Have deeper, more connective conversations with real-time sessions
Start a session →Quick Tips
50 tips you can use on your very next date
Browse tips →Grow
Your dating activity in one place: journal, energy timeline, Sparky insights, app tracker, monthly reviews, and badges
View Dashboard →And in between, there's Sparky
Sparky is an AI dating guide, not a therapist: a judgement-free space to think out loud. After a date that left you confused, before a conversation you're nervous about, or somewhere in the middle of a pattern you're trying to understand.
Sparky draws on the same material as the rest of the hub, so you're not starting from scratch each time. No account needed to start. Five free messages a day. To write each reply, your message is sent to Anthropic's Claude; the Sparky privacy page shows what is kept and lets you delete it.
Chat with SparkySolo Learning Resources
Build your foundation with these self-paced guides. Each section is designed to build on the others, but you can start wherever feels most relevant to you.
Dating Foundations
New to dating? Start here
Beginner guide • 6 minutes
Readiness Check
Are you emotionally ready to date?
10 or 11 questions • 5 minutes
Clarify Intentions
What are you actually looking for?
Self-reflection guide • 10 minutes
Conversation Guide
How to have conversations that actually connect
Practical frameworks & prompts • 15 minutes
Red Flags Guide
Spot warning signs early
Safety guide + quiz • 15 minutes
NEWSex, Pace & Compatibility
The conversations modern dating skips
Direct, adult, non-prescriptive • 9 minutes
Special Circumstances
Dating after loss, trauma, or major changes
Five situations • 3 minutes
Perfect Date Science
What helps a date go well, and where the evidence stops
What the research says • 15 minutes
Dating Landscape
Online vs offline: benefits, pitfalls and what US surveys found
US survey data • 3 minutes
NEWConfidence Building
4-week interactive programme with 28 guided exercises
Interactive programme • About 10 min daily • Track your progress
Psychology Learning Hub
Understand the science behind genuine connection
5 modules • ~15 min each
Insights & Articles
Dating psychology, jealousy, ghosting, first-date anxiety, and more
11 articles • 8-15 min each
Real science, friendly delivery
Much of this hub draws on published research: John Gottman on couples, John Bowlby on attachment, Helen Fisher on romantic love, and behavioural psychology more widely. We translate it into things you can use, without the academic jargon, and we say so where the evidence is thin or where the advice is simply ours. The dating advice you have heard a hundred times? Here it is either backed up, gently debunked, or made more interesting.
You are going to love what is in here. The Readiness Check is a good warm-up: five minutes, and you will know exactly where to head next.
Start with the Readiness Check