The Science of Dating
What does the research actually say about love, chemistry, rejection, and connection? Real psychology, real stories, and practical advice you can use on your very next date.
The Shame That Made Me Quit, and the Reason I Shouldn't Have
I left dating apps for years because of what I saw other men doing. It turns out the response I had has a name in the research, and the conclusion I drew from it was the wrong one.
Against the Grain: How to Use Dating Apps Without Letting Them Use You
The dating app's business model and your objective are quietly at war. What the research says about choice and attention on these apps, and the case for a small-batch approach over the numbers game.
The Questions That Actually Matter: A Partially Serious Guide to Domestic Compatibility
Forget values, politics, and life goals. The real test of compatibility is how they handle the toilet paper, the butter, and the kettle. A tongue-in-cheek guide that's more useful than it has any right to be.
Your Mindset Shapes the Date: The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy in Dating
How your expectations before a date shape the outcome, and one weekend that proved it. The psychology of self-fulfilling prophecies, with a practical framework for resetting your mindset.
Under-Promise, Over-Deliver: The First-Date Lesson Dating Apps Forgot
A pattern I can't quite make sense of: why people post photos on dating apps from a decade earlier than now, and what happens in the first three seconds when their date walks in. The science of first impressions, a business rule that turns out to apply, and what to do once the profile is honest.
The Long-Distance Playbook: What Nobody Tells You About the Reunions
The debrief-rekindle-tension cycle that every long-distance couple recognises but nobody warns you about. Real experience, real research, and a practical playbook.
The Green Monster: Why Jealousy Feels Like Love (But Isn't)
Why jealousy can consume us when we're young, why it can fade as we mature, and what the psychology of jealousy says about insecurity, trust and what love actually looks like.
Is Chemistry Real, or Just Anxiety in Disguise?
That electrifying feeling when you meet someone: is it genuine connection or your nervous system misfiring? What the research on attraction and anxiety can and can't tell you about 'the spark'.
Attachment Styles: The Map You Didn't Know You Were Following
Love Languages tell you how people prefer to be loved. Attachment theory tells you whether they can receive it at all. A longer-form look at the framework every dating article references and almost none explain properly.
Ghosting: The Psychology of Why People Do It (And Why It Hurts So Much)
Why being ghosted hurts, what brain-imaging studies of rejection did and didn't find, why the ambiguity makes it worse, and practical ways of processing it without letting it define you.
Is Love a Scientific Problem That Can Be Solved?
A Google AI expert posed this question on a podcast and it stopped us in our tracks. What does science actually know about love, and what remains beautifully unsolvable?
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