The app is free. Always.
Our mission is bigger than one app. Dive Deep Dating is part of Dive Deep Dialogues, our work on using story, deeper dialogues and psychological insight to build resilience across every area of life.
This app focusses on one thing: helping you build real, honest connection with someone you're dating.
We believe you shouldn't have to pay to have a meaningful conversation with someone. A few optional add-ons help cover our costs if you find value in them.
When you want an add-on, it's 3 months flat, not a subscription you'll forget about. If you've moved on from dating, we'd rather lose the revenue than keep quietly charging you.
Everything you need. Free.
This isn't a stripped-down free tier. It's the complete experience.
- All modes: First Dates, Long Game, Games Hub, 36 Questions
- Full multiplayer: create and join sessions with a partner
- Voice calls (no carrier cost, no phone numbers)
- A free account that saves your journal, reflections, tracked dating apps, Sparky summaries, Learning Hub progress and finished sessions, and opens them on any device you sign in on
- Growth Dashboard: see your sessions and ratings over time
- Full session history and reflections, on your device or in your account
- Dating Confidence Hub
- Sparky, your AI dating guide: 5 messages a day, free forever
- Chat during sessions
- Solo mode for browsing and reflection
Optional Add-Ons
Three small extras that help cover our costs. Pick any, all, or none. The app works without them.
Video Calls
- See each other before you meet, with no phone numbers swapped
- No phone numbers and no social handles to hand over
- Encrypted between your two devices, and never recorded
- When you add it, your partner gets access in your sessions too
Dating Confidence Coaching
- Sparky, your AI dating guide, remembers your goals and dating situations
- 25 Sparky messages per day (free tier gets 5)
- Pre-date prep and post-date reflection, any time of day
- Stored in Australia. Replies are written by Anthropic's Claude. Never used to train AI
Spicy Mode
- 90 thoughtful but direct questions about desire, fantasy, and connection
- Mixed formats: open questions, this-or-that, rating scales, priority rankings
- Three heat levels: Warm, Hot, and Scorching
- Both partners must consent before activating
- When you add it, your partner gets access in your sessions too
Before you buy: what you're consenting to
- • Spicy Mode content explores sexuality, desire, fantasy and intimacy. Privacy laws give this kind of information extra protection: it is "sensitive information" under Australia's Privacy Act and "special category data" under the GDPR, for example.
- • You must be 18 or over to activate Spicy Mode.
- • Once purchased, you choose which heat levels you're comfortable with. You don't have to opt in to all of them, and only levels you have both chosen are shown.
- • You can withdraw consent at any time during a session with one tap. Your partner can too.
- • We never use Spicy Mode data for advertising and never sell it. Like the rest of your data it is stored with our hosting provider, Google Cloud.
Date Night Bundle
Video Calls + Spicy Mode. Everything you need for deeper date nights.
Dive Deep Dating Complete
Video Calls + Spicy Mode + Sparky add-on. Everything Dive Deep Dating offers, one price.
Part of something bigger
Dive Deep Dating is one app in the Dive Deep Dialogues ecosystem. If you have a paid Dive Deep Dialogues plan (DDD Plus, Family or Family+), sign in with it here: Video Calls, the Sparky add-on and Spicy Mode are all included. A free DDD account signs in the same way, without the add-ons.
The broader ecosystem includes Inner Voice Mastery, Family Dynamics, and more, all built around meaningful conversation and psychological resilience.
Where you can use it
Dive Deep Dating runs in any modern web browser today. iPhone and Android apps are on the way. The free tier will be free there too, and we plan to keep add-on prices the same wherever you buy them.
Common Questions
Is the free tier really free?
Yes. Sessions with a partner, voice calls, all standard content, the Growth Dashboard and your session history are free, with no trial, no time limit and no ads. Sparky is free for 5 messages a day. The only things that cost anything are the three optional add-ons.
Why 3-month access and not monthly or lifetime?
We designed this for people who are actively dating. Three months gives you proper time to explore without locking you into an ongoing subscription. If you come back to the dating scene later, you can add them again.
What happens when my 3 months expire?
The core app stays completely free, including 5 Sparky messages a day. You just lose access to any paid add-ons (Video Calls, more Sparky messages, Spicy Mode). Your conversation history, cloud data, Growth Dashboard, and everything else remain exactly as they were.
If I buy an add-on, does my partner get it too?
Yes, during any session you create. Your partner inherits your add-ons for the duration of the session. If they want to create their own sessions with the add-ons, they'd need their own.
What about the DDD subscription?
A paid Dive Deep Dialogues plan (DDD Plus, Family or Family+) includes all three add-ons: sign in here with the same login. A free Dive Deep Dialogues account uses the same login too, but does not include the add-ons.
Is my data private?
Your journal, your reflections and the notes you write for yourself are yours alone: your partner never sees them, and nothing you write is used for advertising. In a shared session the other person does see what you share with them: the answers you type, chat, and the 1 to 10 rating you give a question in First Dates "Talk It Out". Voice and video calls are encrypted between your two devices and are never recorded. You can export or delete your data at any time. Our Privacy Policy has the detail.
Ready to go deeper?
No account required to start. No credit card. Just open the app and begin.