Long Game
Four levels of compatibility questions for the moments when you both want to really know: are we building toward the same thing?
Money, family, conflict, intimacy, life goals: the conversations that quietly decide whether a relationship grows or stalls. Often the ones that get skipped because they feel too big to start cold. Every main question comes with follow-ups, interpretation guidance, and the green flags (and red flags) worth noticing, plus a short note on the psychology it draws on. The aim is that you both leave with a clearer picture of where you align, and of what's worth talking about more.
The conversations that quietly decide things
Six territories the questions keep returning to, each with an example from the deck.
Values & Life Philosophy
What you're each building toward
"What are the non-negotiable values you need to share with a long-term partner?"
Attachment & Connection
How you each handle closeness
"What do you need to feel secure in a relationship?"
Money & Financial Values
Where the awkward bits actually live
"What are your thoughts on how finances should be handled in a relationship?"
Family & Children
The future shape of your life together
"What role does family play in your life currently?"
Conflict & Communication
How you'll repair what inevitably breaks
"How do you typically handle disagreements with someone you care about?"
Intimacy & Vulnerability
What lets you both fully relax in
"What does it feel like when you're completely emotionally safe with someone?"
First Dates, or Long Game?
Same family. Different moment in the arc.
First Dates
- 190 questions across six moods, plus a quick-fire round, from playful to meaningful
- For first dates, pre-meet calls, and getting to know someone
- The question it answers: "do I actually want to keep seeing them?"
Long Game
- Four levels of curated questions, each with follow-ups + interpretation
- For couples thinking about a real life together
- The question it answers: "are we actually building toward the same thing?"